Emotional Value of Addiction ＂Soul Gas Station＂ (190)

Liu Lixuan and Deng Yaying Our Space

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Emotional value of "addiction"

In our daily life, the exchange of emotions is everywhere. It is like an invisible bond that connects everyone’s heart. It is often lamented that in an intimate relationship, the other party cannot "provide emotional value" to himself. What exactly is "emotional value" and how important is it?

Emotional value: the ability to influence others’ emotions

The concept of emotional value, originally from the field of economics, refers to the emotional experience value brought by products and services to consumers, and its calculation formula is: emotional value = emotional income (positive emotional experience)-emotional cost (negative emotional experience).

Later, psychological and sociological researchers introduced this concept to describe a person’s ability to influence others’ emotions in interpersonal relationships. Simply put, when we can make others feel comfortable and happy, our emotional value is high; On the other hand, if we make people feel unhappy, our emotional value is low. The expression of emotional value is multidimensional, not only in the support and encouragement given at critical moments, but also in every interaction and understanding of interpersonal communication.

Emotional value plays an important role in shaping and deepening interpersonal relationships, which can not only enhance understanding and support, but also profoundly affect individual psychology and development.

● In intimate relationships, a simple compliment and an understanding word can change people’s mood in an instant, make people feel cherished and understood, and improve their life satisfaction and happiness.

● In the parent-child relationship, parents’ encouragement and support will help improve children’s self-esteem and self-confidence; High-quality parent-child emotional experience is very important for creating a warm and harmonious family atmosphere.

● In friends’ communication, sharing a sad experience, shared laughter and sympathetic tears can provide high emotional value for friends, which can reduce loneliness and increase mutual trust and dependence.

● In the working relationship, the positive exchange of emotional values can improve the cohesion and efficiency of the team; Open discussion and constructive criticism can also help members grow and stimulate their potential.

Improve "emotional gain" = increase "pleasant experience"

People often say, "If you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black if you are near Mexico." Life is what you choose to be with. With people with positive energy, you will be full of hope and positive energy for life; Being with people with negative energy will make people have negative mentality and emotions. Contacts with "people with high emotional values" are easy to make people "addicted", and the pleasant experiences in those contacts often make people want to get close to them.

How to improve your interpersonal skills and provide higher emotional value for others? We can adopt the following strategies:

1. The art of active listening. Being an active listener means not only listening to what the other person is saying, but also showing your participation and understanding through eye contact, nodding your head or short sentences (such as "I see"). This kind of behavior will make the other party feel that their thoughts and feelings are valued, thus deepening the emotional connection between you.

2. Provide specific help. When you want to show concern, don’t stop at "Can I help you?" The level, but put forward specific help suggestions. For example, "I can help you finish this task, or we can discuss that problem together." Specific promises of help can convey your concern and support more than vague kindness.

3. Share positive experiences. Sharing your success, happy event or gratitude can encourage others to share their positive experiences with you, thus establishing a stronger cycle of emotional resonance and positive energy between you.

4. Show empathy. Try to see things from each other’s perspective, even if you disagree. Express your understanding and sympathy through words, such as "It sounds like you are really upset/frustrated/happy." Showing your empathy can not only deepen mutual understanding, but also enhance emotional connection.

Reducing "emotional cost" = reducing "emotional consumption"

In the maintenance and development of interpersonal relationships, the high emotional cost is an unavoidable challenge. If there is an imbalance between giving and receiving emotions, it will lead to a decrease in the overall emotional value. Another way to enhance the emotional value is to reduce the emotional cost and reduce the negative emotional experience brought to others. When your emotional value is "insufficient", try this:

1. Sincerely apologize and reflect on the reasons. Sincerely apologize to the other party, admit that you have brought negative emotions to the other party, and find out the problem.

2. Pay attention to needs and express feelings. Give each other a chance to express their views, try to meet each other’s reasonable needs, express your feelings and thoughts about things, and pay attention to our way and tone.

3. Give time and keep communication. Calm analysis and thinking, respect for the other party may take time to deal with emotions, and keep open and honest communication to ensure that the problem can be completely solved.

Psychologist Carl Rogers once said: "What we need, more important than any material help, is to feel the understanding, acceptance and care of others." I hope you can also become a "high emotional value person" and gain a happy experience in the process of emotional exchange.

Brief introduction of the author

Liu Lixuan, an undergraduate student, is a passionate young man who loves basketball.

Brief introduction of the author

Deng Yaying, a college student, likes reading and traveling.

Introduction of anchor

Chen Wenxuan, a undergraduate student, comes from Xi ‘an, Shaanxi Province. She loves broadcasting and records her daily life.

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Original title: Emotional Value of Addiction "Spiritual Gas Station" (190) "